Six months after giving birth, I was buried under piles of baby laundry and barely surviving on three hours of sleep a night. So when our washing machine finally gave up, I thought my husband, Billy, would understand. Instead, he shrugged and said, “Just wash everything by hand—people did it for centuries.”
I stared at him, too tired to argue. Maybe I should have seen it coming. Since our daughter arrived, I’d been trapped in an endless loop of feeding, cleaning, cooking, and washing. Babies create more laundry than seems humanly possible—tiny onesies, burp cloths, bibs, blankets—it never stopped.
When the machine sputtered, groaned, and died, I felt like it took my sanity with it. But Billy barely looked up from his phone when I told him. “Not this month,” he said. “Maybe next month when I get paid.”
“Billy,” I pleaded, “I can’t wait three weeks. The baby’s clothes need to be cleaned properly every day.”
He just sighed. “Look, I already promised to pay for my mom’s vacation. She deserves it.”
I blinked, stunned. His mother—who “babysat” once a month by napping on our couch and eating my cooking—was getting a vacation, while I was expected to scrub everything by hand. When I pointed that out, he got defensive. “Can’t you just do laundry like people used to? Nobody died from it.”
That night, after I’d spent hours hunched over the bathtub, scrubbing until my hands burned, I decided something needed to change. If he wanted to live like it was the 1800s, fine. I’d show him what that really looked like.
The next morning, I packed his lunchbox as usual—but instead of food, I filled it with rocks and tucked in a note: “Men used to hunt for their meals. Go make fire with stones and fry it.”
By noon, he stormed through the door, red-faced. “Are you out of your damn mind? I had to open this in front of my coworkers!”
I smiled sweetly. “Oh, so public humiliation is bad when it happens to you?”
He called me childish. I laughed. “Childish? You told me to wash eight pounds of laundry by hand every day while you sat on the couch scrolling your phone.”
He tried to argue, but the words died in his throat. For the first time, I saw guilt flicker across his face. “I get it,” he finally muttered.
“Do you?” I asked quietly.
He nodded, defeated. I didn’t push further. He sulked the rest of the night, but I didn’t care. Let him sit with it.
The next morning, he woke up early. He didn’t say where he was going. When he came back that evening, I heard the sound of something heavy being dragged across the floor.
There it was—a brand-new washing machine.
He didn’t say a word as he set it up, checking hoses and buttons. When he was done, he looked up, his voice softer than I’d ever heard it. “I get it now.”
I nodded, folding my arms. “Good. Because if you ever choose your mother’s vacation over my sanity again, you’d better start learning how to light a fire with those rocks.”
He didn’t argue. And for once, I felt lighter—not because I had a new machine, but because he finally understood that helping me wasn’t optional. It was part of being a husband.